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Greenlighting in NYC

I went with my GreenlightCard friends for an interview they had on NBC in New York City. You think it is nerve-racking getting ready for a first date...try heading to 30 Rockefeller Place for a 7pm interview on Friday night.  It went really great!

https://www.greenlightcard.com/

Same As It Ever Was

I had a Lynn appointment this afternoon. It's kinda funny--when I made it a few weeks ago, I thought to myself, "I may have to reschedule this, things are good, I don't think I'll have anything to talk about." She greeted me in the waiting room and I made my way up the stairs to her office. I sat down. She smiled and asked what I wanted to talk about. My mouth opened, words and f bombs flew. She sat there quietly listening. I covered a lot of ground in less than 5 minutes. She quietly said, "you associate this with John." I told her I didn't think I said that. This is what I did say--"cheating, lying, cheating, lying, liar, fucker, liar, fuck, liar, liar, married, what about his wife, ew, gross, pig, all men are pigs, fuck, fucking, fuckers." Okay, maybe she had a fucking point. I told her how pissed off I was at myself for putting my head in the sand. I told her I wasn't naive in thinking he wasn't celibate, but FUCKING MARRIED!? and I didn't not have a choice in deciding if I wanted to participate in his extra martial affair (the woman who started a blog about cheating!) Lynn talked about how the mind tells itself what it wants to hear. I had not had sex with anyone else in almost a year. I thought he was safe. I thought he was a decent guy. She said it was easier for me to beleive that he was married to his job vs. the reality that he was truly married. EW. She also brought up my belief that "All Men Are Pigs". I told her that I had even emailed that question to my ex (Duke--recall, he's a right WANKER). We talked about the fact that all men are not pigs and discussed examples of non-pig men. She asked me who was my ideal man--I had to say Joe DuBois. Luckily she watched Medium and knew of Joe. Ironically, Joe is a very normal guy. We really zeroed in on my fear of a "real" relationship. She also said how great it was that my gut told me something wasn't right with this guy. Okay, I was starting to not be so hard on myself and see the positives. I learned a valuable lesson--if something seems too good to be true (i.e. that SOB was safe), it probably isn't true.  

Funny, that the shit I was working on a year ago (i.e. the fear of being hurt again) is still here. Same as it ever was (envision Talking Heads guy, David Byrne doing that motion down his arm). Suppress it and it will always pop back up. Things could be much worse--I could be In Haiti or Chile or in Special Ops Bastard's mind....

Interestingly, Lynn brought up the fact that I was cynical. I call it funny...again, she had a point. She said how my humor was a coping mechanism. I told her that the "shitting fish sticks'' phrase had brought me tons of enjoyment. I think it may have eclipsed all ManGroomer™ humor. She agreed that SOB's stomach may be a bit upset this week. Back to cynicism. It is funny I wrote about sarcasm the other day.I've always been the class clown. The one that makes everyone laugh. Take that away and I am NAKED!

So, moving forward...I have reservations at Season 52 tonight (the new "in" place). We will be taking a taxi. I will start hair and makeup in about an hour. GreenLight Cards will be in my purse. I won't be ordering the fish...

Giving the Greenlight

I had mentioned that Polly and her friend were launching an unique dating site. I got a question about it from one of you all tonight about it.  

It is called Greenlight Card:

https://www.greenlightcard.com/

One of the big bummers with Internet dating is (I speakth from experienceth) you email with the person, you talk on the phone and he/she seems great, you arrange a meeting....you get to Starbuck's and the chemistry is nothing! The concept with Greenlight Card is you purchase a membership. You enter your contact info (for example I put  my gmail address). You control who you contact. I was telling some nurses about it today (Penelope was supposed to be selling something else, instead I am acting out Greenlight for them). My scenario was I am walking through Publix and I notice a hottie by the bakery. He smiles. I smile. We walk on. I see him again on aisle 2 while I am selecting pasta. He smiles. I smile. We meet again in produce. I deftly pull out my Greenlight Card and hand it to him as we are selecting the perfect bunch of bananas.

See that it says greenlightcard.com on one side and the other side explains that they have been given the "greenlight." The instructions tell the recipient to go to the website and they enter the number (your cards have a unique number that is linked to only you). The recipient will then get your contact info you entered (you can put your cell number and/or email in) emailed or texted to them. They do not have to pay or register in any way. A membership is $99/year. The member is the person with the cards. You get 25 cards as a starter and you can reorder cards (you can reorder 25 cards for 25 bucks). There is no need to worry about how many members exist because you control who you are giving the card. It is up to you to get out there and expose yourself (not literally) to people. I can't tell you how many times I texted Polly to say "I need a Greenlightcard" last summer while they were getting the website ready. The airport, my UPS guy, in Nordstrom's, at Publix...the list goes on and on. Notice I did not list a bar?

The nurses I was talking to today loved the idea. We talked about how it is scary to start a conversation and give your number. I told them that when I used to travel all the time I would be anxious about giving my business card since it had lots of info. This is much more discreet and classy.

I have not seen anyone worthy of the Greenlight yet. I will keep you all posted. What I like is the fact that I will select who I feel that spark with vs. meeting a guy that is 20 lbs heavier than his profile picture and he has his sister write his emails for him!